Terms of Endearment

Terms of endearment are phrases or words used as a way of addressing someone, and are often directed at women.

Common examples of terms of endearment include:

These words might be considered an inappropriate way of addressing someone. This is because such terms tend to be regarded as gendered and patronising, potentially leading to accusations of harassment or inappropriate behaviour. It is also worth noting that describing a female or a group of women as ‘birds’ wouldn’t be appropriate either, as some people may find this irritating or derogatory. The use of words like ‘woman’ or ‘female’, however, is absolutely fine.

Equally, there are certain words that are generally aimed at men that may not be considered appropriate to use in a professional situation or environment, such as ‘mate’ or ‘lads’. Although these may not seem like offensive words, addressing others in such a casual way should be avoided in the workplace.

However informal a situation is, or your level of familiarity with someone, it is normally inappropriate to address someone using terms of endearment. Even if you believe these phrases are friendly or affectionate, not everyone will be comfortable with the use of such words.

A more appropriate way of addressing someone in a professional situation would be to use either their first name, their title followed by their surname, or the name they gave you upon introduction.